And we ALL have our own rigidities without knowing it. I recall eating breakfast in a hotel in Chicago with a colleague who watched me eat my toast in ABSOLUTE horror. I could see the horror in his face. I didn’t know what it meant.. . the TOAST was good! Finally he said, „What is the matter with you, haven’t you got any table manners of ANY sort?“ I said, „Why do you ask?“ „You buttered that toast, broke it in two, and now you are eating half of it.“ I said, „That’s right … it tastes very good.“ He said, „The PROPER way is you CUT your slice of toast in four parts and you pick each up separately and eat it.“ I asked him why and he said, „because that’s the only WAY to eat toast!“ So the next morning I ate my toast by the WHOLE toast without breaking it in half. He finally learned to eat toast comfortably.